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To our blog readers, BLESSED NEW YEAR!!! May this year be a year of great joy and blessings, and let us remember and be thankful for the year that has passed (2009). God was with us and still is through our ups and our downs. God bless!!
December 31, 2009
Love Language 5 (Physical Touch)
•Physical touch can make or break a relationship. It can communicate hate or love.
• If your spouse’s primary love language is physical touch, nothing is more important than holding her as she cries.
• Your tender touches will be remembered long after the crisis has past. Your failure to touch may never be forgotten
Taken from
The Five Love Languages. How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Now With Comprehensive Study Guide. Gary D. Chapman. NORTHFEILD PUBLISHING, Chicago
December 31, 2009
Love Language 4 (Acts of service)
- We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give direction to love but demands stop the flow of love.
- First… what we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage. Second, love is a choice and cannot be coerced. Third, my spouse’s criticisms about my behaviour provide me with the clearest clue to her primary love language.
- …he was willing to break from his stereotype when he realized how important it was for Mary. That is necessary for all of us if our spouse’s primary love language ask something of us that seems inappropriate to our role
Taken from
The Five Love Languages. How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Now With Comprehensive Study Guide. Gary D. Chapman. NORTHFEILD PUBLISHING, Chicago
December 30, 2009
Love language 3 (Receiving gifts)
- If a millionaire gives only $1 gifts regularly, the spouse may question whether that is an expression of love. But when family finances are limited, a $1 gift may speak a million dollars worth of love.
- Physical presence in the time of crisis is the most powerful gift you can give if your spouse’s primary love language is receiving gifts.
Taken from
The Five Love Languages. How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Now With Comprehensive Study Guide. Gary D. Chapman. NORTHFEILD PUBLISHING, Chicago
December 29, 2009
Jesus,
Be the centre,
Be my hope,
Be my guide,
Jesus.
Jesus,
Be the centre,
Be my song,
Be my light,
Jesus.
Be the fire in my heart
Be the wind in these sails
Be the reason that I live
Jesus, Jesus
The title of this page is taken from another blog, the reason why, you will know soon. Be the centre, that’s what we’ve always wanted, Jesus to be the centre of our lives as individuals and as a couple.
The song above, I’ve sang it before many times but it didn’t mean as much till we sang it again during VBS 2009, at our church (Vacation Bible School for kids). I was truly moved and didn’t “know” the meaning of the song till I heard the children sing it, full of passion, from the bottoms of their hearts.
Be the centre, be my hope, be my guide, be my song and be my light, putting God in the centre of it all means to put Him in the centre of it all, get it?? We both strive to have God in all that we do, since from the beginning before we even started anything (official) we made sure that God was okay with it, if you know what I mean. We struggled, she struggled a lot on her part, through it all we always said at the end if it’s Your will. We didn’t get a definite yes neither did we get a definite no. We fasted and prayed, and prayed even more. Then we decided together to give it a try, more than just a try really, to give it all.
Since then we’ve seen how God has planned it all, from our past experience and relationships till this day, we’ve learn our lessons, we’ve experience different parts of our lives, all so that we could happen. It just blows my mind just thinking of it, how He had planned it all.
Be the fire in my heart, be the wind in these sails, be the reason that I live. Let God be the passion, let Him be the wind that guides us and blows us along and let Him be the reason why we live. Today while doing my devotion God reminded me that we should be preparing for our eternal future and not set our eyes on earthly things that will fade away.
Even till today God is still the centre of it all from our families to ministries, to work, and to our relationship. We always consult Him whose thoughts are higher than our thoughts, whose ways are higher than our ways.
The bellow is taken from a friend’s blog and how Szu Li’s life and relationship has touched others,having God in the center of it all. Just taking a snippet from it, God bless.
*And hearing her “spill the beans” was quite different … it was not like a random, “I’ve found someone” or “I’ve gotten together with someone”. I don’t know, she was telling me how they met [in church] and they got attracted to each other and how it all started. She said it was a struggle for a while, but it’s been good with much prayer and guidance and that they’re still in the ‘getting to know each other’ stage … Then she said, “having someone to share makes a lot of difference. So am very, very grateful and blessed by God, ’cause He answered my prayers in the weirdest and out of the world way. Very, very blessed ’cause have been praying very long and God knows me extremely well when I see how He placed us together. My stand has always been, I rather not marry than to marry wrongly, out of desperation. It’s really true one … when we honor God and put God first in our lives, He will do the rest. I told God that, ‘Lord, I will not settle for less than the best you can give me, on my life partner’ and He promised me lo. Though I won’t have a husband who is rich and wealthy, but all the qualities that are important to me, [he] has it. We both know that we are God’s gift to each other, so we constantly remind each other not to take God and each other for granted.”
December 29, 2009
Love language 2 (Quality time)
- A central aspect of quality time is togetherness. I do not mean proximity. Two people sitting in the same room are in close proximity, but they are not necessarily together. Togetherness has to do with focused attention
- We are trained to analyze problems and create solutions. We forget that marriage is a relationship and not a project to be completed or a problem to solve
- A relationship calls for sympathetic listening with a view to understanding the other person’s thoughts feelings and desires.
- My objective is not to defend myself or to set you straight. It is to understand you.
- The Daily Minimum Requirement for a healthy marriage. One way to learn new patterns is to establish a daily sharing time in which each of you will talk about three things that happened to you that day and how you feel about them
- One of the by products of quality activities is that they provide a memory bank from which to draw in the years ahead.
Taken from
The Five Love Languages. How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Now With Comprehensive Study Guide. Gary D. Chapman. NORTHFEILD PUBLISHING, Chicago
December 28, 2009
Love Language 1 (Words of affirmation)
- The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love. It is a fact, however that when we receive affirming words we are far more likely to be motivated to reciprocate and do something our spouse desires.
- Forgiveness is the way of love. We cannot erase the past, but we can accept it as history. We can choose to live today free from the failures of yesterday.
- If we are to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other’s desires. If we wish to love each other, we need to know what the other person wants.
- A request creates the possibility for an expression of love, whereas a demand suffocates that possibility.
Taken from
The Five Love Languages. How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.Now With Comprehensive Study Guide. GaryD.Chapman. NORTHFEILDPUBLISHING, Chicago
November 6, 2009
Being yourself
This is inspired by the person who wrote the letter (Page 1) encouraging us on how she has learnt and blessed by our relationship, quoting from the writer itself.
“My past relationship caused me to change to become someone I was not. I was trying to be someone else just to make the other party happy, and that’s one of my regrets. So, I can see the both of you are being yourselves, and even there are some changes, it’s for the better”.
“My past relationship caused me to change to become someone I was not” becoming someone you’re not is not the way to start or sustain a relationship. Yes, we may feel obliged or wanting to please the other party “just to make the other party happy”. I’m not saying change is not good, don’t get me wrong. There is always that core person inside of you who you really are.
Take for example, ME, not the best example but let’s go with it. Deep down inside the core of who I am is-, I’m laid back, quiet (ok well not all the time), generally patient, I’m always listening, I’m not all gung-ho, I’m a thinker (I enjoy thinking) and the list goes on. She fell in love with who I am deep inside, and I fell in love with who she is deep inside. What got me falling for her was her ever serving heart, her passion for God and her longing to want to do more and the list goes on. Get me?
Who are you deep inside? Ever thought of that, know, understand, love and care for yourself first before you can know, understand love and care for another person. Know and understand yourself, that core bit of you shouldn’t change, although changes do happen.
“So, I can see the both of you are being yourselves, and even there are some changes, it’s for the better”. I will always remember how she always checks with me by asking, “Have I brought or caused more good to you or made you worst”. As a person that is. We know that we fell in love with the person inside and we want to keep that as the main foundation of our relationship. For example, she is used to making decisions on her own and where ever she goes she basically just go without needing to check or tell anyone where she is going, but when we got together, for me I wanted to know where she is (of course, please don’t get me wrong not every second and every detail of it all though), like “I have dinner tonight, facial on Wednesday etc, etc. The purpose is so that I know her whereabouts, not restrain her.
Let me break it down for you, her core self – she is independent, self sustaining, and enjoys her freedom, the change well – to let me know where she is, to be accountable. See I’m not restraining her freedom, meaning all I want is to know where she is, if she has other appointments just that I know, not to check on her but, so that if anything were to happen I know where she is, if she calls and needs help I know where she is, if someone is looking for her I know where she is and how I can get her. Get it. It’s not meant to restrain.
She kept her core self and a little addition to it, some would see it as change but really it’s an add on. Even if there are changes it should be for the better, to build the other up and to add on. That is how I would see it. So I would encourage couples out there, love your partners for who they are, make changes that adds on or betters yourself and the other person without losing who you really are deep inside. BE YOURSELF! Even if there are changes, it’s for the better. To sum it up, strive to bring out the BEST in each other!
November 5, 2009
Dear Aaron and Szu Li
Well please don’t misunderstand my intentions of writing to the both of you in letter form. Let me explain. Firstly, I explain myself better in written form, and secondly, I might get choked up with emotions before I can finish what I want to say. Thirdly, if I talk to you both in person I might get detoured and go on telling other stories.
First, as you can see, there are two small cards inside ……….. but it’s to remind you both that I’m always backing you both in prayer, and supporting you always.
The intention I wrote this is to actually tell you about how I feel. I’ve kept this inside long enough, and I don’t think I can ever bring myself to say or express myself if I’m physically talking to you. I’m truly very, very glad, happy and relieved that both of you, who honour God greatly, has found love and commitment in one another. Szu Li, I’m glad you found Aaron and that you love and care for him. I’m glad that he is in good, loving hands. I haven’t seen Aaron so happy for quite some time and the joy you put on his face, is almost magical. And Aaron I’m glad you found Szu Li too, and I can see how much you love and cherish her. It’s also a blessing to see how you both put your relationship before God, and lay it before Him. I’m sure He will take care of everything.
Somehow through you ,Szu Li and now both of you in your relationship, has helped me to heal, forgive and in time forget. All the rage, anger and sorrow has left me, and I’m slowly piecing back my life together. Your relationship has become an example for me to follow, should I get involved again. Truly I don’t know what else to say besides, thank you both !! I’m off to a new start in life, and hope you’ll both be a part of it.
My past relationship caused me to change to become someone I was not. I was trying to be someone else just to make the other party happy, and that’s one of my regrets. So, I can see the both of you are being yourselves, and even there are some changes, it’s for the better.
Regards
Anonymous
